It’s not easy to pin down exactly what we mean by the word ‘personality’. It seems obvious, but it can be hard to put into words. This can be because the words we use to describe people tend to have wide meanings – and these meanings often overlap. These words can also cover more than one kind of experience. For example, ‘shyness’ describes the feeling of awkwardness with other people, but also how we behave by being rather quiet in the company. It is also difficult because the way we behave – and appear to other people – can be very different in different situations. You can know a person well at work, but find that they behave quite differently in their private life.
In mental health, the word ‘personality’ refers to the collection of characteristics or traits that we have developed as we have grown up and which make each of us an individual. These include the ways that we:
By our late teens or early 20s, most of us have developed our own personalities. We have our own ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving. These stay pretty much the same for the rest of our life. Usually, our personality allows us to get on reasonably well with other people. For some of us, this doesn’t happen. For whatever reason, parts of your personality can develop in ways that make it difficult for you to live with yourself and/or with other people. You don’t seem to be able to learn from the things that happen to you. You find that you can’t change the bits of your personality (traits) that cause the problems. These traits, although they are part of who you are, just go on making life difficult for you – and often for other people as well.
Other people will often have noticed these traits from your childhood and early teens. For example, you may find it difficult to:
- make or keep close relationships
- get on with people at work
- get on with friends and family
- keep out of trouble
- control your feelings or behavior
- listen to other people
- unhappy or distressed
- often upset or harm other people
then you may have a personality disorder (see below for descriptions of the different types). Life is more difficult if you have a personality disorder, so you are more likely to have other mental health problems such as depression or drug and alcohol problems.
How common are personality disorders?
There have been difficulties in clearly defining personality disorders. Previous research studies have suggested that up to 1 in 5 people might have a personality disorder. However, a larger and more rigorous UK study in 2006 suggested that, at any given time, about 1 in 20 people will have a personality disorder.
Personality disorder – treatable or untreatable?
People with a diagnosis of personality disorder have not, in the past, had enough help from mental health services. These services have been more focused on mental illnesses like schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, and depression. There have been arguments about whether mental health services can offer anything useful to people with personality disorders. Recent research makes it clear that mental health services can, and should help people with personality disorders.
Do personality disorders change with time?
Yes. There is evidence that they tend to improve slowly with age. Antisocial behavior and impulsiveness, in particular, seem to reduce in your 30s and 40s. It can, however, sometimes work in the opposite direction. For example, a schizotypal personality disorder can develop into the mental illness ‘schizophrenia’.
Different kinds of personality disorders
There are different ways to describe mental disorders and to put them into categories. The first step is to see if there are patterns or collections of personality traits that are shared by a number of people. Once these patterns have been identified, we can start to find effective ways of helping. Research suggests that personality disorders tend to fall into three groups, according to their emotional ‘flavor’.